Getting Started
The Intimacy Shift follows a 12-part series of modules which integrates learning and practicing proven tools and skills
Each module of this program is progressively designed to shift intimacy from conflict to connection and transform your relationship
Each modules contains:
Video (~45min) w/ Dr Dan teaching proven research-based skills and practices
Practice specific skills to progressively deepen and shift intimacy in your relationship
Aligned resources for deeper learning, practice and review.
Like going to the gym to strengthen your body, this program produces results through consistency, effort, and commitment. Participants who have followed this blueprint report:
Increased reports of trust and emotional connection
More frequent and pleasurable sexual experiences
Fewer thoughts of separation or divorce
Reduced impulsive spending and financial decision-making
Weeks 1–4 focus on the most effective skills from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—tools that often take months to learn in traditional talk therapy.
By the end of Week 4, you'll be able to understand and express your emotions clearly, helping you break out of conflict cycles and resolve long-standing issues in your relationship. Emotional intimacy is the central focus during this phase.
Weeks 5–8 offer a deep dive into applying Attachment Theory and Neuroscience to your intimate life.
By the end of Week 8, you’ll have implemented your personal ‘Intimacy Menu,’ making sex and touch feel safe, passionate, loving, and confident. These weeks focus on cultivating physical intimacy.
Weeks 9–12 focus on breaking common relationship patterns—like avoidance, lashing out, blaming, resentment, and defensiveness—by harnessing new habits and communication skills.
By the end of Week 12, you'll feel confident navigating difficult topics like finances, sex, and parenting with clarity and ease. The focus during these weeks is on sustainably shifting intimacy from conflict to connection.
This program isn’t about perfection. It’s about progress—built week by week, skill by skill, shift by shift.
As you move through each phase, you’ll experience moments of challenge, growth, and breakthrough. And by the end, you’ll not only understand how to shift intimacy from conflict to connection—you’ll have lived it.
Let’s get started!
